Smooches! I missed you all!
We had a nice weekend - quiet, which is good. AND I did get about 6 hours by myself yesterday, which was heavenly. Much needed for a battery recharge. I enjoyed every minute of it! Today I was in our satellite office, so no computer for me. Boohoo!
I am really looking forward to my fill on Friday. I am hoping, hoping, hoping the surgeon will take pity on the restrictionless me and give me 2 cc to bring me to 8 cc in my 14 cc band. It seems that a good 70-80% of people have restriction by 8cc in a large band.
A few of you shared your ideas/thoughts on DD's bedtime, and I could certainly use some more ideas and thoughts. If you don't want to read about how my two-year old is making me crazy, I understand. And we'll just part ways right here for today. And I won't even hold it against you, although I will be totally jealous!
For about the last month, DD has been sleeping with me while DH sleeps in the guest room. She was fine in her crib and then suddenly hated it. We tried the toddler bed. Hated that, too. Switched her back to a crib. Hated that just as much as before.
I've tried her mattress on our floor. She hates that, too.
We tried moving everything out of the guest room except the bed and making it a big deal about how it was her big girl bed. She hated that as well. With a capital H.
Indeed, she hates anything but sleeping on top of me or right against me.
A few side notes, she has always been a totally mommy's girl. And she can get out of her crib, open doors, open and scale baby gates, and is generally a monkey. I've debated getting a crib tent, but they are pricey, and knowing her, she'd be able to get out!
Over the holidays, we tried the Nanny 911 method of putting her in her crib and not engaging with her at all. Every time she got up, we put her back in without talking or looking at her. Every time she woke up in the middle of the night, we did the same thing.
We did it for four days.
Every night, it took between 3 and 4 hours to get her to sleep.
Every night, she woke up every 1-1.5 hours and would proceed to scream for 45-60 min. She did this all. night. long. For four nights. With no naps. And waking up ready to go by 8 am.
By the fifth night, DH and I were done. We were both zombies from getting 3-4 (broken up) hours of sleep.
I finally said, I don't care. She can sleep with me. At least we're sleeping.
But I think I've hit the wall. She takes FOREVER to fall asleep. She wakes up constantly throughout the night. She's often up for 1 or 2 hours in the middle of the night. So, I'm not getting much sleep. Last night, for example, it took me almost 2 hours to get her to sleep. Then for the 7 hours I slept with her, she woke up for 1 hour around 3 am and begged to go downstairs, and also woke me up an additional 7 times. As you can imagine, I am tired. In general, I hate sleeping with other people, even DH. I especially hate other people touching me while I sleep, and damn, this girl wants to be glued to my side.
So, what do I do? Is it a phase? Do the Nanny 911 thing until it works? I am seriously at my limit with this. I yelled at her several times last night, and I don't like that. I hate being so frustrated with her, but I am tired and would like an hour by myself in the evenings, even if it is to get crazy and scrub a toilet or something.
We have a bedtime routine that she loves. We've tried no nap, later nap, shorter nap, earlier nap. We've tried earlier bedtime, later bedtime, no tv before bed, and so on. We've tried going for walks in the evening, going to the Y, and doing quiet activities. She doesn't drink caffeine and doesn't have sugar after dinner. I'm about out of ideas.
My ped recommends getting the child safety knobs, putting them on the inside of her door, and leaving her in there until morning (the guest room with just the bed and some toys, that is). No matter how long and hard she screams. I am seriously thinking about it, but part of me thinks it's cruel. CIO is one thing, and we've had to do it with her before. But this feels different.
Argh - it's making my blood pressure rise just talking about it, and it's almost bed time, which also makes my blood pressure rise. Anyhow, ideas, support, or Fed-Exed wine would be greatly appreciated