tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post4547948629217315669..comments2023-10-10T12:41:41.983-04:00Comments on Sleeved Wonder: Lots on my mind...Amyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04313191155322211127noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-77060170203566253022010-08-21T15:48:37.482-04:002010-08-21T15:48:37.482-04:00argh!!! I would be soo livid like you and your fee...argh!!! I would be soo livid like you and your feelings are so justified...i don't have any in laws but I can absolutely relate to family drama...your plan was thoughtful and smart and it is ridiculous that drama is created for no reason..I hope that all works out..but, you are right and your family (and their well being..i.e. moving for a job!) is most important!!MLMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13604780037114383753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-5903299835266582302010-08-19T13:13:57.661-04:002010-08-19T13:13:57.661-04:00man, it sure sounds to me like you have a right to...man, it sure sounds to me like you have a right to be angry with your MIL and BIL. I think you had a great plan with your mom, and you were going about it in a very grown-up way. It's too bad the MIL had to open her mouth at all. that sucks. <br />Christine<br />www.phoenixrevolution.netChristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15187183342257251495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-49492866997544285112010-08-19T07:08:08.557-04:002010-08-19T07:08:08.557-04:00Sorry to hear you are having a rough time with the...Sorry to hear you are having a rough time with the in-laws. They do not sound very pleasant.Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08059225189818297139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-47728692156221113272010-08-19T00:34:34.779-04:002010-08-19T00:34:34.779-04:00You are so awesome!!!! I just found you in blog la...You are so awesome!!!! I just found you in blog land and am now a follower. I hate that you have that kind of relationship with your MIL. I have the same with my BIL, but have finally reached the point where I don't let him have any power over me. You just have to cut people like that loose. Congrats on all your success! I really appreciated your posts on bandster hell. I, stupidly, thought that after a couple of fills I would find my sweet spot but NOOOOO, I am so not there yet. Why did I think that bandster hell would only last 6 weeks?????? Grrrrr...Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07452900907732768548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-39936202433471787512010-08-18T21:33:38.443-04:002010-08-18T21:33:38.443-04:00UGH. Let me tell you how unfair life is, ok??? Y...UGH. Let me tell you how unfair life is, ok??? You lived by your MIL for some time and she sounds awful!!! My MIL, however, is so awesome, gets along with me and my family VERY well and we have a GREAT time together. She is also going through some hard times now as her daughter died this year and unfortunately we aren't near her to console her or party with her during the good times. We all live so far away and always have!! How unfair is that?? I am sorry your MIL sucks... that must be hard to deal with!!Janellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08818413148882366954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-58345370446290215962010-08-18T19:25:47.562-04:002010-08-18T19:25:47.562-04:00Dammit - she sounds like a nightmare and one you d...Dammit - she sounds like a nightmare and one you do not have to deal with anymore! TOXIC I tell you - toxic! Why on earth to some people make it their mission to ruin other's lives. I hope karma kicks her ass some day....I'm not happy she hurt my Amy....but you have every right to be pissed. Jesus.♥ Drazil ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/10177140029694038645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-26507504652111615092010-08-18T18:10:00.856-04:002010-08-18T18:10:00.856-04:00My middle name is Saint! Sorry for the stress and ...My middle name is Saint! Sorry for the stress and drama. MIL relationships are complicated. My MIL is pretty nice. But my poor husband got the short end of the stick with my mom! LOL!<br />Hope all goes better. XOXOJoeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09238705965706714229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-29874065543178055002010-08-18T16:09:05.360-04:002010-08-18T16:09:05.360-04:00There is craziness in ALL FAMILIES! I would be fe...There is craziness in ALL FAMILIES! I would be feeling just like you...sometimes there is no winning and the inlaws create so much DRAMA!<br />It helps to talk it out...Nellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17805501890595353794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-8406873744923611202010-08-18T15:45:13.442-04:002010-08-18T15:45:13.442-04:00Dude...I frickin' LOVE YOU!!! I can relate on...Dude...I frickin' LOVE YOU!!! I can relate on both the psycho wedding in law story (I nicknamed my SIL the wedding Nazi...and frankly, I've never been in a wedding that, on the big day, I wouldn't happily have stood on the bride's neck and watched her die...hence I am not married), and your selfish MIL. It is so bad with my parents in law that they've never even met our youngest child. Yeah...family sucks sometimes. *HUGS*Gillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422010996986937582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-11107189816472938042010-08-18T15:38:37.358-04:002010-08-18T15:38:37.358-04:00Ugh, I am so sorry you are having to endure this.
...Ugh, I am so sorry you are having to endure this.<br /><br />I think you are very right to pull away. Sad thing is she probably won't even notice. Sounds like that type of person...<br /><br />I'd talk to DH...but I'd also talk to SIL and let her know what you were REALLY saying. Then let SIL deal with BIL. As for talking to DH, don't make him chose between you and mum. Just make it clear that you are not ok with this.<br /><br />You know your DH already has chosen you, though. I'm guessing he was ok with moving to FL and away from mum because he probably feels a lot of the same way. Sad that you've got to rack up your own experiences, though.<br /><br />She'll never get it. All you can do is make sure your sanity stays in tact.<br /><br />And hard as it may be, don't be mad at BIL. I'm sure mum told him exactly what she needed to say to rile him up the best - even though it probably was only a fraction of the truth. Just talk to SIL....LDswimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16047339088972152520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-44557650236346205172010-08-18T14:52:56.130-04:002010-08-18T14:52:56.130-04:00Dang!! Drama for realz!! I couldn't deal with...Dang!! Drama for realz!! I couldn't deal with all that who shot john mess that your MIL is always cooking up. Have a talk with DH and let him know you are done then be through with it. Its a shame people like her exist in this world. Silly ole goose.Pamela E. Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14781902368781617527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-51864434101122462762010-08-18T13:55:51.643-04:002010-08-18T13:55:51.643-04:00Your mother in law sounds like a distant cousin of...Your mother in law sounds like a distant cousin of my mothers. Maybe they are related. Honestly, if I were you, I would love to give her the rough side of my tongue and tell her to "Fuck Off, I'm sick of your shit and don't need to deal with your crap", but also, have you talked with your husband about the fact that she acts this way and he either needs to put an end to it now, or you will. I'm sorry, but sometimes spouses want to "keep the peace" and don't have enough gumption to stand up for their wife and lay down the law with their own family. You need to stop this now. You deserve better.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02194299634556467542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-79054875925827136172010-08-18T12:52:24.895-04:002010-08-18T12:52:24.895-04:00Ugh, I am so sorry, that really sucks! I can'...Ugh, I am so sorry, that really sucks! I can't believe that your family would react that way without getting the facts directly from you! I mean it's a wedding ceremony - anyone can go to that! MIL are a huge pain in the arse! However, no matter what her excuses were and even though you weren't offended - how in the world could your husband AND kids be IN the wedding, but you aren't invited to the shower?! In my opinion THAT is bad etiquette! Hugs! <3Collshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14278693592531685218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-11232999454564278032010-08-18T12:44:46.200-04:002010-08-18T12:44:46.200-04:00So sorry... I too, have an MIL who can be a chall...So sorry... I too, have an MIL who can be a challenge... But, I've been honest and stood up to her and the few times she tried the shit, I nipped it in the bud and called her on it. Yes, it caused drama, but she now knows that I will do it, so she stirs the pot a little (little) bit less... good luck - hopefully your DH supports you in this and sticks up for you to them!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272835472155583191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-24132596587176248002010-08-18T12:06:16.948-04:002010-08-18T12:06:16.948-04:00I want to kick her ass for you! I would call the S...I want to kick her ass for you! I would call the SIL and explain what happened and then never mention it again.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07794746954511347596noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-54034808703976639742010-08-18T12:01:23.521-04:002010-08-18T12:01:23.521-04:00OMG she sounds like an absolute terror. I'm so...OMG she sounds like an absolute terror. I'm sorry you have to deal with this wedding drama. In-laws are crazy.<br />*HUGS*-Grace-https://www.blogger.com/profile/14777413585734523956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-295279861810184332010-08-18T11:51:12.182-04:002010-08-18T11:51:12.182-04:00Haha, Jennifer, MIL has had us over for dinner twi...Haha, Jennifer, MIL has had us over for dinner twice in the 6 years DH and I have been together. Once for Thanksgiving, and she cooked all appetizers - out of boxes (like the TGIFriday's ones). Once for Easter - a Honeybaked Ham, a package of Bob Evans mashed potatoes, and a can of corn. I kid you not.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313191155322211127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-16392240088811180432010-08-18T11:41:24.663-04:002010-08-18T11:41:24.663-04:00I'm a saint. Why are in-laws always so damn di...I'm a saint. Why are in-laws always so damn difficult. I want the kind that are warm and open and have big family dinners and we all love each other. We got GYPPED!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00825425735172749255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-25039726297041911602010-08-18T11:26:22.857-04:002010-08-18T11:26:22.857-04:00Girk you need a hug and a drink. You have every ri...Girk you need a hug and a drink. You have every right to go off- that is BS. I actually have some favoratism issues with my MIL,but she's generally harmless.I would throwdown with yours. Keep your chin up.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045822533798781579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-17836855149240473512010-08-18T11:17:50.265-04:002010-08-18T11:17:50.265-04:00No...it's definately you who is the saint! In-...No...it's definately you who is the saint! In-laws can be tough...they don't understand us the same as our own family and they sure as heck don't love us the same!Sparklerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05490306062512171500noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1578563159822352688.post-15193890962353624722010-08-18T11:14:44.333-04:002010-08-18T11:14:44.333-04:00I'm sorry. That is definately a tough situati...I'm sorry. That is definately a tough situation. You have a good plan, and as long as you handle yourself as nicely as you have been I see no problems with it. You aren't preventing the kids or your husband from seeing/contacting her. I don't think I could handle that any better than you!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09210759567767466760noreply@blogger.com